Your guide to the best strap-ons for lesbians

The power of strap-on harnesses

There is no limit to our infinite creativity and sexuality

All of us, gay or straight, are empowered and energised when we explore our sexuality in new ways. Sexuality is as limitless as our creativity, and two are closely interlinked: when our sexuality is unfettered and adventurous, so is our creativity.

Wearing a strap-on harness is a powerful way to unleash your sexual creativity. Throughout human history, the compelling imagery of women with male organs features in art throughout history and throughout cultures across the world, and is a evocative sexual symbol. The archetypal imagery connects to us in a primal place, and, liberated, we respond.

A little nervous?

Strap-ons, sex toys and dildos have been used by lesbians since the dawn of time, but it's OK to be nervous or confused by the strap-on. We don't want to have sex with men, so it's confusing as to why we are turned on by the idea of our partner wearing a strap-on harness, or of mounting our partner with a dildo. Some people go as far to say that lesbians should not use strap-ons at all. The reasons are varied and ridiculous, and all boil down to a desire to control or limit the boundlessness of female sexuality. 

Strap-ons will NEVER take the place of skin on skin

Although this site celebrates strap-ons for lesbians, we understand the place that sex toys have in the bedroom. Lesbian sex, in its purest form, is all about sensations, physicality, and intimacy. Sex toys will NEVER take the place of skin on skin.

So why strap up?

Lesbian sex toys can be an extension of your creativity and inventiveness: just one more way to bring her to ecstasy. Think about dancing with your lover: hips touching, breasts pressed together, her breath in your ear. Now think of you being pleasuring her on the inside, while you continue to dance, to move as one, standing up, lying down, moving together in rhythm. It's just like dancing, with some excruciatingly hot benefits.

The pure act of penetration

I dismiss the petty-minded people who say lesbians should not wear strap-ons. Their arguments are too ridiculous to repeat in detail, but at its heart there is a fallacious, out-dated myth that if you wish to strap-up, you either want to BE a man or want to have SEX with men.

But how do such people explain the proliferation of unrealistic dildos on the market? All women, gay and straight, can choose from dildos in a magnificent array of shapes and colours. One could deduce that it's the pure act of penetration that excites us: not the idea of the penis at all.

But even if you are wearing the most realistic dildo in the world, let's be clear, a dildo does not have a man attached to it. It has your beautiful lover attached to it. And that makes all the difference.

(Tip: If you're still not sure that dildos are your 'thing', you might want to check out some good lesbian porn for lesbians.) 

 The Goddess

A pretty rainbow dildo